Yes, I will allow myself two smileys today. :D :D

Day 21 ~ weigh-in.
It was a good day diet wise, no lapses and I think my uniform was slightly looser at last!

I have lost another 4.6 lbs :yes:

Total weight loss = 12.3 lbs

My scary BMI is now 30.1 (it was 32.4 at the start of the programme)So next week hopefully it will be below 30 which will make me 'overweight' as opposed to 'obese' ;)

Everyone in the group was on the whole pleased and has either lost just over or just under a stone, so we are all on target.
What I love about our lot is that there is no sense of competitiveness(is that a word?|-| )
Actually everyone is very supportive.

S talked a lot about Ego states.
I understand the concept but am wondering how I will be able to control the negative and promote the adult ego state :-/

This got me thinking about the controlling parent ego state.....and the fact that my mum is coming to visit on Thursday.
When I spoke to her on the phone last week she was already talking about what we were going to have for lunch :roll:
I haven't told her that I am on this programme. I did not want the confrontation. Now I don't think there is any choice :no:

The irony is that she is an alcoholic (thanks for the addiction genes mom :roll:)
She is functional, but spends much of her sober time in 'status hangoverus' B),where she is short-tempered and understanding/compassion/encouragement are all in very short supply :**:

I wish I could tell you that it is the nurturing parent in her that makes her this way :no:

I chatted at length to one of the ladies in the group about my dilemma, and we could see no other way around it apart from for me to be honest.Because this is a long term programme,it will only be delaying the situation if I don't tell her now. (goodness me!~adapted child ego state 8|)

My hubby was actually really great about this dilemma, and he is going to come home for lunch to give me some support :yes: (He has no idea how much his support means to me ~ I was expecting him to tell me to 'deal with it')I am made up :D
My feeling is that if Mum sees that someone else is supporting and encouraging me, she will perhaps not want to be the only negative voice???

Either way...I am not giving up now :!:

People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong...Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?”