Not knowing a lot about Lighter life other than what I have read about on here, or in the papers, all I can say is you seem like the kind of person that will achieve your goals and stick to them because that is what you want.

With any diet, people will tellyou that when you come off it you will put on weight and yes that can be true BUT remember a lot of it is lifestyle choices. Most people have success with any diet and manage to maintain and I am sure your counsellor will be there to help you maintain as well. From what I have heard the Lighter Life counsellors do help you still after you have reached goal, after all most diets are set out so that they help afterwards, if not then it isn't worth doing.

Remember you are being successful on this and your friend may feel threatened by this. She gave up after a couple of days on Cambridge - well she may have felt unwell because she was doing something different, we all feel like that when we do something different to the norm. Anyone will set out and tell you horror stories for what you are doing - remember for every horror story out there there is a success story. We always remember the horror stories never the good ones! And anyway there is always a reason why people aren't succcessful. Perhpas they didn't stick to the plan 100%. Perhaps they didn't get the support they needed. perhaps when they got to goal they weren't sensible with their food choices, they over ate, went back to old habits, didn't follow the advice of their consultant, didn't keep up with the exercise. That is invariably the reason why they didn't succeed. I should know I have yo yo'd dieted all my life for those very reasons!! You however, have guts and determination, you will succed and you will keep it off because you know what you should do, I am sure you will not go back to those old habits when you start eating properly again will you? At the end of the day it is what we want that is important, not what other people think.

Your friend should be more supportive, remember though it is just a stumbling block, you will always come across people like her standing in your way to your goal, it is whether you start to believe them that is important. If you do you will not win your battle with weight loss, you have let them win instead by stopping you from reaching your goal.

Turn a blind eye to what she says, ignore her and carry on getting lighter!

hugs xxx

FFS!

I agree with all Faffajane has said above, but also would like to add that there was obviously a reason (albeit maybe subconscious) you did not tell this 'friend' in the first place, and now that she knows it's plain why. She's what I call an 'energy sapper' - y'know - there's just some people who drain your will to live? Everything is negative, nothing good ever happens, the world is out to get them?

These are all negative strokes from her - she tried (for 2 days - whoop - big deal, most people feel a bit ropey at the beginning but c'mon 2 days?? She could at least have stuck it for a week!)and failed miserably and is acting out on you for 2 reasons - it takes away from her failure, and she's jealous.

Please don't let it undermine your success and confidence.

In 6 months time when you are maintaining you can face her and say "Hey! how's the dieting going? I'm doing great, been maintaining for 6 months now"

So stick that in your pipe and smoke it.

It's a cliche, but with friends like her......

Chin up angel, you're an inspiration and doing really well.

PLUS - you've got a lovely shiny new car waiting for you!

S xxx

Hi J, hope things are going Ok and that you've not let the negative comments undermine your LL success.

Keep at it girl, you're doing so well, and come so far. Don't let them drag you down!!

Chin up love,

Sxx