Day 89
Ok...So 89 Days in and 100% stuck to the programme.
No lapses....No Hiccups......
Weight this morning 59.4kgs....
Yes, I should still be on top of the world
and I was.....
Until....
My very good friend rang and was talking to Gary as I was out at the time.
The conversation turned to The Cambridge Diet (similar to Lighter Life but not quite as brutal as I understand it) that she had started two days previously and had to finish as she had felt unwell.
He then mentioned my diet plan. Before I began this,I chose who I would be confiding in and who I did not want to tell but as I am nearly through foundation I wasn't too fussed by the fact that she now knew.
When she rang me the following day and we started to talk about what I was doing (after the initial lecture about why didn't I tell her) she said "You do know that you will put all the weight back on as soon as you start eating again?" followed by "I don't know anyone who has kept the weight off after doing that diet" followed by "one of my friends lost 8 stones on Lighter Life and gained it all back plus an extra stone" and finlly "If you lose anymore you will look awful"
At the time I answered with a fair degree of positivity and we moved along to other things.
It was only later on that evening that I started to feel really anxious about all that she had said, and Now I am distraught 
What if she is right?
Why am I going to be any different to all the other people that she knows?
What if this has all been for nothing?
I am also really cross that a friend could wipe out all of my newly acquired self confidence in one fail swoop 
This has been so so hard.
If I had been recieving medical treatment for something would she have said "you do know as soon as this treatment has finished you will get sick again"
I need to get positive again...but I don't know how
HELP!
faffajane
Pro 
Not knowing a lot about Lighter life other than what I have read about on here, or in the papers, all I can say is you seem like the kind of person that will achieve your goals and stick to them because that is what you want.
With any diet, people will tellyou that when you come off it you will put on weight and yes that can be true BUT remember a lot of it is lifestyle choices. Most people have success with any diet and manage to maintain and I am sure your counsellor will be there to help you maintain as well. From what I have heard the Lighter Life counsellors do help you still after you have reached goal, after all most diets are set out so that they help afterwards, if not then it isn't worth doing.
Remember you are being successful on this and your friend may feel threatened by this. She gave up after a couple of days on Cambridge - well she may have felt unwell because she was doing something different, we all feel like that when we do something different to the norm. Anyone will set out and tell you horror stories for what you are doing - remember for every horror story out there there is a success story. We always remember the horror stories never the good ones! And anyway there is always a reason why people aren't succcessful. Perhpas they didn't stick to the plan 100%. Perhaps they didn't get the support they needed. perhaps when they got to goal they weren't sensible with their food choices, they over ate, went back to old habits, didn't follow the advice of their consultant, didn't keep up with the exercise. That is invariably the reason why they didn't succeed. I should know I have yo yo'd dieted all my life for those very reasons!! You however, have guts and determination, you will succed and you will keep it off because you know what you should do, I am sure you will not go back to those old habits when you start eating properly again will you? At the end of the day it is what we want that is important, not what other people think.
Your friend should be more supportive, remember though it is just a stumbling block, you will always come across people like her standing in your way to your goal, it is whether you start to believe them that is important. If you do you will not win your battle with weight loss, you have let them win instead by stopping you from reaching your goal.
Turn a blind eye to what she says, ignore her and carry on getting lighter!
hugs xxx